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Episode 37 | Becoming Who You Were Meant to Be: The Power of a Purposeful Pivot

• Pam Dwyer • Season 1 • Episode 37

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We explore the transformative power of pivoting—not as an admission of failure but as a return to purpose when life's challenges threaten to overwhelm us. The journey of growth often leads to moments where our dreams feel heavy, requiring us to realign with our core "why" to continue moving forward authentically.

• Recognizing when your dreams begin to feel heavy and how to pivot back to your true purpose
• Navigating fear when it tries to derail your pivot by pausing to get curious instead of panicking
• Overcoming the silence from others that can make you question your path and purpose
• Understanding that being underestimated is like "people setting up checkers while you quietly set up chess"
• Embracing the pivot not as failure but as remembering why you started in the first place
• Finding your identity after relationship endings or when others try to define who you should be
• Taking the Plus One Challenge: identifying where in your life you need to pivot back to your why

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Hey friends, welcome back to the Plus One Theory podcast, where it's not about starting fast, it's about finishing stronger than you started. I'm your host, pam Dwyer. Today we're talking about something I've had to lean on over and over again the power of a pivot, not just in business, not just in habits, in becoming who you were meant to be, because life has this way of surprising us right. Relationships end, we get underestimated, people expect us to fit into a box that was never meant for us and if we're not careful, the very dream we were chasing can start to feel so heavy that it sucks the joy right out of the work. That's when a pivot becomes more than just a shift in direction. It becomes the moment you lean into your true self, into your why, into who you were always meant to be. Have you ever noticed how the thing you once dreamed about can start to feel heavy? The thing you once dreamed about can start to feel heavy once you're in the middle of it. You've got the vision, the message, the passion, and then come the drafts, the revisions, the strategy calls the social posts, the. Is this even working moments? Suddenly, growth feels less like soaring and more like trying to breathe underwater. If you've been there, well, you're not alone. That's when I remind myself of the power of a pivot.

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Lately my focus has been delay the binge. It's beautiful and stretching and, yes, sometimes flat out exhausting. Rebranding can do that to you. But it's one branch on a tree right. It's been growing for years. I've got the plus one theory, which is a branch finishing stronger than you started. I've got my book mantra of from the piney woods, which is your past does not define you, it prepares you. And then my company, tpkk Concepts. Poor little thing, it gets overlooked all the time. But my slogan for my company is inspire, motivate, educate. It's all different words but it's the same heartbeat. And that heartbeat it's my why, giving people a voice, because I grew up without one Unheard unseen. That fuels every single story I tell, every talk I give, every program I create, even in the way I raised my children. But here's the thing when I lose sight of that, why the hard part of growth creeps in and it tries to choke the joy out of my work. And then I have two choices to make it's either keep pushing harder and burn out, or pivot, not away from the work but back toward the heart of it.

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A pivot doesn't mean I failed. A pivot means I remembered. It's alignment, it's breathing room, it's my message. Sometimes the pivot isn't a new project, it's a new identity. It's what happens when a relationship ends and you decide who you are without them. It's when you've been underestimated and you pivot from proving them wrong to proving yourself right. It's when the world wants you to be who they need and you pivot into becoming who you were meant to be. I grew up reading the room to stay safe, finding the biggest risk and the shape-shifting to keep everyone calm and safe. That survival skill can steal your voice. Believe it or not. The pivot is saying I don't have to become who you want me to be. I'm becoming who I was created to be. Also, being underestimated is like people setting up checkers while you quietly set up chess. Let's be real.

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Pivoting isn't easy, because fear shows up like an uninvited house guest who eats your snacks and leaves dirty laundry behind. Fear whispers. What if you fail? What if they laugh at you, pam? What if you're not enough or they just don't like you? Sometimes it doesn't whisper. Sometimes it shouts loud enough to crush the pivot before it ever begins. For me, fear looks like the world's worst spin instructor, yelling and screaming while I'm just trying not to pass out. It pushes, but in the wrong direction. Instead of pivoting toward purpose, you circle the same track, exhausted, going nowhere.

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Here's what I've learned when fear shows up, don't just plow through, you pause. That pause is so powerful y'all. It's the moment you notice the trigger. You get curious instead of panickingicking and you take back your power. That's the same heartbeat behind delay, the binge. The urge isn't the enemy, the silence around it is. So when fear shows up, just like when a destructive habit shows up, fear shows up, just like when a destructive habit shows up. Pause, get curious and ask what's really driving this. Am I reacting to the fear or responding to purpose? Fear can sit in the passenger seat, but it does not get the steering wheel. You know what else can crush a pivot Silence.

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Silence isn't always peaceful. Sometimes it's the loudest noise in the room. It's the silence when fear and doubt creep in. It's the silence when people don't react to your heartfelt work. And it's the silence Don't react to your heartfelt work. And it's the silence, that silence when you give your best and the response is nothing.

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And the hardest silence of all is when it comes from the people closest to you, the ones whose encouragement could mean the most. A simple I'm proud of you, pam, or keep going, you're making a difference could carry me for miles, but instead nothing. No good, no bad, just silence. And in that silence you're left to overanalyze, to wonder do they see me? Do they care? Do they just not want to hurt my feelings? Does this mean I'm failing? And here's the truth. It hurts more when nothing is said. It speaks loud and clear and for me it brings back old feelings of being unseen, unheard and forgotten. But here's what I've had to learn Silence, it lies.

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Silence can't destroy your vision or your goals, because you're not in this to please the world. You're in this to share the message with the people it was meant for, the ones who will hear it and heal from their own wounds. Not everyone will get your message, not everyone will want your message and, yes, sometimes even the people you thought would cheer you on will stay silent. But that silence does not get to decide your purpose. You are the only one who can control your emotions. You are the only one who decides whether you keep showing up. So focus on your why. Keep your eye on your calling. So focus on your why. Keep your eye on your calling. Silence or not, applause or not, the pivot is what carries you back to your purpose every time, and when you do that, silence loses its power.

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I've been underestimated more times than I can count. People told me I didn't have the right background or that I couldn't possibly pull this off. For a long time I would pivot just to prove them wrong. But eventually I realized that that pivot wasn't about them at all. It was about proving myself right. And sometimes the pivot comes when a relationship ends Suddenly. You're left wondering who am I without them and what do I do now?

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I've had those pivots too, and each one has taught me this the pivot is all about becoming. Not becoming who others want you to be, not shrinking yourself to fit their expectations, but becoming who you were always meant to be, what feels right to you your calling. So let me leave you with this. A pivot doesn't mean you failed. A pivot means you remembered and you're resilient. You're not going to give up. It's alignment, it's breathing room, it's devotion over discipline. It's remembering why you started in the first place. So the work doesn't drown out the message.

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Here's a plus one challenge for the week. Where in your life do you need to pivot back to your why? Maybe it's your career, shifting from proving yourself to living your purpose. Maybe it's in a relationship, reclaiming your voice where you've been unseen. Or maybe it's in your habits pausing when fear shows up and choosing devotion instead of discipline. Whatever it is, lean into the pivot. Not into fear, not into silence, but into becoming who you were always meant to be.

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Thank you for spending this time with me today and letting me rant. Remember. Your past prepared you. Your story gives you the power to pivot. And your plus one that one small step forward. It empowers you to finish stronger than you started. If today's episode encouraged you, share it with a friend, and if you haven't already, please subscribe so you won't miss what's coming and listen. If you're ready to take this even deeper, head over to DelayTheBingecom. You can sign up for a free consultation, join the email list and be the first to get updates on the latest tools and resources.

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And speaking of what's next, the next two Sundays are going to be amazing. I'll be sitting down with Hussein Holick, entrepreneur and author with one of the most refreshing outlooks on life, and then Tyler Lenz. He's an author of several incredible books and a voice you don't want to miss. I met him at one of my markets that I was selling from the Piney Woods, and he just left such an impression on me. I can't wait for all of you to meet him. So make sure you tune in, because these conversations are going to light you up. Until next time, pause when fear shows up. Don't let silence define you and keep pivoting back to your why. Thanks for listening.